If you are interested in marriage counselling, you need to understand that hard work is involved and that there are no guarantees, but if you and your partner are serious about saving your marriage, investing your time, and going through counselling is definitely worth it.
The effectiveness of marriage counselling will depend on the motivation levels of both parties. The sessions can be challenging and difficult, but it is possible to improve your marriage if that is what you really want. In order to do this, you need to be honest with your therapist and share your true feelings and concerns so that you and your partner can move forward and find ways of making the marriage work.
In order to be able to share your feelings, you need to feel comfortable with the therapist, so make sure you choose one who has experience working with couples because they need to be a good fit for both you and your partner. If one of you feels uncomfortable, the sessions will be wasteful, and you will not experience any improvements.
Timing is another very important factor in terms of the effectiveness of marriage counselling. In many cases, couples wait too long to reach out for help, and by the time they agree to marriage counselling, the damage is too far gone for the relationship to be repaired. The reality is that the longer you wait, the more difficult it will be to save your marriage, so if you start to feel unhappy, you need to seek help sooner than later so that you have a chance of improving your situation.
Counselling can help you and your partner learn how to resolve your differences in effective ways but waiting too long will eliminate this possibility because there will be too much resentment, and your negative feelings will prevent you from moving forward.
Every couple is different and will argue about different things. Your problems can be related to financial matters or issues related to your children, and whatever the problem may be, you may find that you are having the same argument over and over again with no resolution. A marriage counsellor can help you improve your relationship by encouraging you to define your problem and agree on it as a couple. They will help you find the main problem in your marriage and will ask both of you to take responsibility for your behaviours. If the timing is right and you are able to do this, you will be able to communicate honestly and can set goals for your relationship so that you can begin working on them together. The therapist will make sure the goals are realistic so that they can be achieved.
If you want to save your marriage, or need therapy support to part amicably, Daphne can help. I specialize in relationship counselling and psychotherapy, so if you are looking for a reputable family therapist in the Vancouver area, give me a call today!